become a pleasure pig

Become A Pleasure Pig!

Our cat Yoda is nicknamed “the pleasure pig.” Yoda demands massive amounts of attention, belly rubs, cheek scratches, and snacks of his favorite baby food, which we called “Yoda’s Crack.” The other day I was watching my husband Brian give Yoda a yoga stretching massage and silently wishing that I was as good at demanding […]

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Love As A Spiritual Adventure superheroyou

Love As A Spiritual Adventure

A few years ago I was watching a reality/dating TV show where a couple on a second date decided to bungee jump from a bridge, something neither of them had ever done before. Not only were they going to leap off the bridge, they were going to do it at the same time. First they […]

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superheroyou The Big Benefits Of Being Married To Your Soulmate

The Big Benefits Of Being Married To Your Soulmate

In The Power of Myth, Joseph Campbell and Bill Moyers define marriage as something beyond the heady, romantic love we were trained to seek: “Marriage is not a love affair. A love affair is a totally different thing. A marriage is a commitment to that which you are. That person is literally your other half. […]

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superheroyou Book Review- Turn Your Mate Into Your Soulmate

Book Review: Turn Your Mate Into Your Soulmate

Do you believe in soulmates? Even if the answer’s no, if you’re a woman who’s married – or in a serious relationship – you ought to read Arielle Ford’s latest book, Turn Your Mate Into Your Soulmate. Ford married her soulmate at 44, and thought that “happily ever after” would come much more easily than […]

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Why You Should Date Multiple People

Why You Should Date Multiple People

Stop me if this situation sounds familiar at all to you. You connect with someone you meet, either online or in real life, and you actually make plans to meet up again. You meet up a couple more times. You start to think, “I could really like this person,” or, “This person is so fun! […]

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superheroyou How to Beat Relationship Insecurity

How to Beat Relationship Insecurity

It’s natural to feel insecure sometimes in your romantic relationships. But it’s not natural to be constantly panicked that you’re not good enough for your partner or that he/she is going to leave you. Even if it doesn’t manifest in needy, jealous or controlling behaviors, all that anxiety isn’t good for your mental health! That’s […]

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How to Deal If You've Been Cheated On

How to Deal if You’ve Been Cheated On

Infidelity is something that no likes to talk about. But it happens more than you think. It’s sad, but it’s pretty likely that at some point in your life you’ll have a partner who cheats on you. And when that happens, you’ll be forced to make tough choices, so remember to consider the following. Breathe. You’ve just […]

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10 Tips for Being Friends With Your Ex superheroyou

10 Tips for Being Friends With Your Ex

Let’s face it – breakups are hard. You’re ending an incredibly intimate relationship with someone and it’s natural and healthy to mourn that loss. But that doesn’t mean you have to cut that person out of your life forever! Lots of people are able to remain friends with their exes. And you can too, by […]

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Things You Need to Know Before Getting A Friend with Benefits

What You Need to Know Before Getting A Friend with Benefits

So maybe you’re not looking for “the one” at the moment – but you still might want someone to hook up with. That’s where your “Friend with Benefits” comes in. This is someone you can see in a purely physical sense without the emotional investment of a regular relationship. In an ideal world, having such an arrangement is mutually […]

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superheroyou 10 Tips to Manage Your Jealousy

10 Tips to Manage Your Jealousy

Jealousy is an ugly emotion. It’s also a completely natural one, whether you’re envious of your friend’s new job or your girlfriend’s best male friend. But when jealous feelings turn into jealous, controlling behaviors, that can damage your relationships. That’s why it’s crucial to learn how to manage your jealousy in a healthy way. 1. […]

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superheroyou Why Having a Best Friend Can Be a Form of Therapy

Why Having a Best Friend Can Be a Form of Therapy

Finding a loyal best friend who loves you unconditionally is a rare gift. If you are lucky enough to meet that person, it can make dealing with the pains of life so much easier. Whether this person has been in your life for nine years or just one, it doesn’t change the impact he/she has […]

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How 'Netflix and Chill' Is Ruining Your Dating Life

How ‘Netflix and Chill’ Is Ruining Your Dating Life

The act of dating has lost its purpose throughout the last couple of years. In the past, you would date to find the potential “one”. Dating allowed couples to become acquainted with each other by going out and spending quality time together. Now it has become a social norm to skip this phase. The popularity of ‘Netflix and […]

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How to Break Up with Someone

How to Break Up with Someone

Falling in love is great. Falling out of love? Not so much – especially because falling out of love with someone means eventually you’ll have to break up with him or her. There are right and wrong ways to do that. A Post-it, text message, or voicemail is absolutely unacceptable. Read on for our tips […]

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When You Should Let a Friendship Die

Why You Should Let Some Friendships Die

Making friends is hard. But maintaining those friendships can be even harder. So if one of your friendships fades away into nothing, don’t be ashamed. As you move through the different stages of your life, you’ll learn a hard lesson about your personal relationships: not all of them will go the distance. People say this […]

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superheroyou 10 fun fall date ideas

10 Fun Fall Date Ideas

As the weather gets colder, it can be tempting to spend all your date nights curled up in bed. But it’s still cool – not freezing – so take advantage of the weather and get out while you can! Here are 10 date ideas for a little fall fun. 1. Enjoy Oktoberfest. See if there’s […]

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superheroyou How to Get Out of a Codependent Relationship

How to Get Out of a Codependent Relationship

Codependency is one of those buzzwords we use a lot when talking bout toxic relationships. But most people have no idea what the word even means – let alone how to recognize that you’re in one and get out of it. This article will teach you the signs and fixes so you can lead a […]

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When Taking A Break is Good For Your Relationship

When Taking A Break is Good For Your Relationship

Many people find the idea of breaks in romantic relationships silly. If you’re so stressed out by your partner that you don’t want to be around them, you might as well break up! But if you do it right, it could help your relationship. Here are some instances in which a break might benefit your […]

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How Social Media Can Help Your Relationship

How Social Media Can Help Your Relationship

As much as we love Twitter and Facebook and Instagram, they’re not great for our romantic relationships. In fact, they’re a minefield of drama! Did your boyfriend like a girl’s bikini selfie on Instagram? Is someone favoriting your girlfriend’s Tweets just a little too often? Sure, it might be petty – but study after study has shown that […]

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Why Long Distance Relationships Never Work

Why Long-Distance Relationships Never Work Out

Even if you never thought you would, you might find yourself in a long-distance relationship at some point in your life. Maybe your girlfriend had to take a job in another city. Or maybe you’re going away to grad school. Whatever the reason, long distance is stressful. And unfortunately, it’s often not worth it in […]

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superheroyou how to forgive your parents

How to Forgive Your Parents

Our relationships with our parents lay the groundwork for any future relationships we have. And since not even parents are perfect, your parents probably made mistakes with you. After all, children don’t come with owner’s manuals. So you are probably holding on to at least one grudge from your childhood. It might be petty. Maybe your parents […]

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superheroyou Why You Should Consider A Mindful Relationship

Why You Should Consider A Mindful Relationship

In recent years, the practice of mindfulness has taken the health world by storm. Now, several studies have proven that mindfulness can greatly improve the quality of your relationships. But what is mindfulness exactly? How does it benefit your relationships? And how can you practice it? Read on to find out. Mindfulness is the practice of being present. […]

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Why You Should Stay Single In Your 20s

Why You Should Stay Single In Your 20s

If you watch enough romantic comedies, you might have internalized the idea that if you don’t have a partner, then you must be flawed. Or that if you’re single you must be a sad cat lady. Well, we won’t be the first people to tell you that’s not true – and we won’t be the […]

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