Why You Should Date Multiple People

Why You Should Date Multiple People

Stop me if this situation sounds familiar at all to you. You connect with someone you meet, either online or in real life, and you actually make plans to meet up again. You meet up a couple more times. You start to think, “I could really like this person,” or, “This person is so fun! I can’t wait until we hang out again.”

And then, he or she completely disappears and drops off the face of the earth. Now this is pretty common — and if you randomly surveyed a group of single people, they’d all probably share an experience like this.

This situation is exactly why you shouldn’t focus on dating one person at a time. You invested time and energy into a person who couldn’t care less about you. Instead, you should be dating multiple people at the same time — especially if you’re dating online. 

When you’re first dating someone, it’s important to consider if this person is worth your time. Not just in an are-they-good-enough-for-you way. But in a literal sense, are you spending time with this person that you could be spending working, or with friends, or finding your soulmate? Remember that your time is valuable, so the answer is always yes.

Falling for someone is fun. But in the early stages of any romance, it’s like putting all your eggs in one basket, which is just not practical. Dating around gives you the freedom to meet more people — some who might be better suited for you — and it also prevents you from getting wrapped up in just one person.  So if that person ghosts you, you won’t be as devastated as you could have been.

But before you start trying to juggle, consider the following things:

  • Be honest but discreet. If someone you’re dating point-blank asks you if you’re dating someone else, tell the truth. That being said, that doesn’t mean you should blurt it out at the first opportunity. A good rule of thumb is that if you’re seeing other people, you can assume the other person is as well. And unless you have a conversation about it, you don’t really have to bring it up.
  • Know your bandwidth. This is something you might have to learn the hard way. Maybe you can only skillfully juggle 2 people at a time or maybe you can juggle 20. But figuring out how many people you can date at once takes trial and error. There’s only so much time in the day.
  • Be safe. If you’re old enough to have sex, you’re old enough to have safe sex. This is exponentially more important when you date and potentially sleep with multiple partners. Use protection every time — for your own peace of mind and for your health.

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Written by Roselyn Sebastian

Stop me if this situation sounds familiar at all to you. You connect with someone you meet, either online or in real life, and you actually make plans to meet up again. You meet up a couple more times. You start to think, “I could really like this person,” or, “This person is so fun! I can’t wait until we hang out again.”

And then, he or she completely disappears and drops off the face of the earth. Now this is pretty common — and if you randomly surveyed a group of single people, they’d all probably share an experience like this.

This situation is exactly why you shouldn’t focus on dating one person at a time. You invested time and energy into a person who couldn’t care less about you. Instead, you should be dating multiple people at the same time — especially if you’re dating online. 

When you’re first dating someone, it’s important to consider if this person is worth your time. Not just in an are-they-good-enough-for-you way. But in a literal sense, are you spending time with this person that you could be spending working, or with friends, or finding your soulmate? Remember that your time is valuable, so the answer is always yes.

Falling for someone is fun. But in the early stages of any romance, it’s like putting all your eggs in one basket, which is just not practical. Dating around gives you the freedom to meet more people — some who might be better suited for you — and it also prevents you from getting wrapped up in just one person.  So if that person ghosts you, you won’t be as devastated as you could have been.

But before you start trying to juggle, consider the following things:

  • Be honest but discreet. If someone you’re dating point-blank asks you if you’re dating someone else, tell the truth. That being said, that doesn’t mean you should blurt it out at the first opportunity. A good rule of thumb is that if you’re seeing other people, you can assume the other person is as well. And unless you have a conversation about it, you don’t really have to bring it up.
  • Know your bandwidth. This is something you might have to learn the hard way. Maybe you can only skillfully juggle 2 people at a time or maybe you can juggle 20. But figuring out how many people you can date at once takes trial and error. There’s only so much time in the day.
  • Be safe. If you’re old enough to have sex, you’re old enough to have safe sex. This is exponentially more important when you date and potentially sleep with multiple partners. Use protection every time — for your own peace of mind and for your health.

Enjoyed this? Check out Why It’s OK Not to Travel the World!

Written by Roselyn Sebastian

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