What You Need to Know Before Getting A Friend with Benefits

Things You Need to Know Before Getting A Friend with Benefits

So maybe you’re not looking for “the one” at the moment – but you still might want someone to hook up with. That’s where your “Friend with Benefits” comes in. This is someone you can see in a purely physical sense without the emotional investment of a regular relationship.

In an ideal world, having such an arrangement is mutually beneficial for all parties involved. But there are a few important things you need to consider before getting a friend with benefits.

  • Watch out for feelings. If you’re spending a lot of time with someone, especially in the bedroom, it’s only natural that one of you might start to become attached. And herein lies the problem with most friends-with-benefits relationships: eventually, one person starts to have feelings that are unreciprocated. So be vigilant about this.
  • Keep clear boundaries. For everyone’s benefit, don’t try to make this into a real relationship. Don’t bring your FWB to social events or to hang out with your friends. Integrating him or her into your life just makes it confusing. Keep it simple: you’re only with one another to have sex.
  • Manage your expectations. Just because you see someone regularly in the bedroom does not give you a claim over him/her in everyday life. So if you see your FWB chatting up someone else, try to contain your jealousy. That person is not your significant other. He/she is free to hook up with other people.
  • Be discrete. While you shouldn’t be ashamed of the fact that you’ve found someone to hook up with, you don’t have to blab about it to everyone you know. Remember, this person is not your boyfriend or girlfriend. So please avoid posting about your FWB on social media.
  • Know when to end it. Any friends-with-benefits relationship has an expiration date. It’s important to recognize that going in. Eventually one or both of you will want something more. Maybe one of you will become ready to really commit to someone. And that’s totally normal! So you have to prepare yourself for the eventuality that this arrangement will someday be over. After all, your friend with benefits was essentially just a means to an end.

Of course these tips aren’t hard and fast rules for hooking up – but we hope they help you get what you want!

Enjoyed this? Check out 10 Tips to Manage Your Jealousy!

Written by Roselyn Sebastian

So maybe you’re not looking for “the one” at the moment – but you still might want someone to hook up with. That’s where your “Friend with Benefits” comes in. This is someone you can see in a purely physical sense without the emotional investment of a regular relationship.

In an ideal world, having such an arrangement is mutually beneficial for all parties involved. But there are a few important things you need to consider before getting a friend with benefits.

  • Watch out for feelings. If you’re spending a lot of time with someone, especially in the bedroom, it’s only natural that one of you might start to become attached. And herein lies the problem with most friends-with-benefits relationships: eventually, one person starts to have feelings that are unreciprocated. So be vigilant about this.
  • Keep clear boundaries. For everyone’s benefit, don’t try to make this into a real relationship. Don’t bring your FWB to social events or to hang out with your friends. Integrating him or her into your life just makes it confusing. Keep it simple: you’re only with one another to have sex.
  • Manage your expectations. Just because you see someone regularly in the bedroom does not give you a claim over him/her in everyday life. So if you see your FWB chatting up someone else, try to contain your jealousy. That person is not your significant other. He/she is free to hook up with other people.
  • Be discrete. While you shouldn’t be ashamed of the fact that you’ve found someone to hook up with, you don’t have to blab about it to everyone you know. Remember, this person is not your boyfriend or girlfriend. So please avoid posting about your FWB on social media.
  • Know when to end it. Any friends-with-benefits relationship has an expiration date. It’s important to recognize that going in. Eventually one or both of you will want something more. Maybe one of you will become ready to really commit to someone. And that’s totally normal! So you have to prepare yourself for the eventuality that this arrangement will someday be over. After all, your friend with benefits was essentially just a means to an end.

Of course these tips aren’t hard and fast rules for hooking up – but we hope they help you get what you want!

Enjoyed this? Check out 10 Tips to Manage Your Jealousy!

Written by Roselyn Sebastian

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