Love As A Spiritual Adventure

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A few years ago I was watching a reality/dating TV show where a couple on a second date decided to bungee jump from a bridge, something neither of them had ever done before.

Not only were they going to leap off the bridge, they were going to do it at the same time. First they sat on the edge of the bridge, side by side, admitting how scared they were. Then, as it was nearing time for the jump, they tried to crack a few jokes… but you could tell they were petrified.

Finally they jumped and survived.

In the next scene they were having a glass of wine, gazing into each other’s eyes and clearly falling in love.

What happened?

According to some experts, it turns out that the physiological experience of experiencing fear and anxiety can lead to sexual attraction and bonding!

Whether you’ve been married for decades or are in a new relationship, you can quickly ignite passion by doing something together that includes enough risk to get the juices flowing. Activities such as:

  • Skydiving
  • Whitewater rafting
  • Riding a roller coaster
  • Parasailing
  • Bungee jumping
  • Riding a zip line over the treetops
  • Taking a “ropes course”
  • Watching a really, scary movie.

The goal is to do something together that feels just a little life-threatening to get the adrenaline and other brain chemistry going. The brain chemistry that was activated when you first fell in love with your mate is still there. When you do something challenging together, it causes arousal and drives up dopamine. Add a big adrenaline rush and you can quickly kick-start your love life back into action!

A word of caution for those who are just beginning to date someone new: be sure this is someone you really want to bond with, otherwise you may end up with what some shrinks call “misattribution.”

Here’s a true story that serves as an excellent example of “misattribution:”

Twenty years ago, supermodel Christie Brinkley famously had such an experience. She went heli-skiing in Colorado with her new boyfriend, real estate developer Ricky Taubman, and his son from a previous marriage. Christy was in the process from divorcing her pop star husband of the time, Billy Joel, with whom she had a daughter, and she was ready for a new adventure in her life.

She got more than she bargained for.

The helicopter crashed onto the mountain and they nearly died. Fortunately, they survived and soon after decided to get married. Seven months after the wedding they headed for divorce court.

Here is another way to discover is they are the one for you:

If you are dating, but not yet in a committed relationship, I believe that the very best way to get to know someone (and to get a good idea if they are the one for you) is to take a short trip with them.

Travel can bring out the best and the worst in someone. You will soon figure out whether or not you are compatible and can skillfully communicate with each other when you are both in a strange land out of your comfort zones.

Liked this? Check out our review of Arielle’s book, Turn Your Mate Into Soulmate!

Arielle Ford is a leading personality in the personal growth and contemporary spirituality movement and a relationship expert. Buy her latest book – Turn Your Mate Into Your Soulmate.

A few years ago I was watching a reality/dating TV show where a couple on a second date decided to bungee jump from a bridge, something neither of them had ever done before.

Not only were they going to leap off the bridge, they were going to do it at the same time. First they sat on the edge of the bridge, side by side, admitting how scared they were. Then, as it was nearing time for the jump, they tried to crack a few jokes… but you could tell they were petrified.

Finally they jumped and survived.

In the next scene they were having a glass of wine, gazing into each other’s eyes and clearly falling in love.

What happened?

According to some experts, it turns out that the physiological experience of experiencing fear and anxiety can lead to sexual attraction and bonding!

Whether you’ve been married for decades or are in a new relationship, you can quickly ignite passion by doing something together that includes enough risk to get the juices flowing. Activities such as:

  • Skydiving
  • Whitewater rafting
  • Riding a roller coaster
  • Parasailing
  • Bungee jumping
  • Riding a zip line over the treetops
  • Taking a “ropes course”
  • Watching a really, scary movie.

The goal is to do something together that feels just a little life-threatening to get the adrenaline and other brain chemistry going. The brain chemistry that was activated when you first fell in love with your mate is still there. When you do something challenging together, it causes arousal and drives up dopamine. Add a big adrenaline rush and you can quickly kick-start your love life back into action!

A word of caution for those who are just beginning to date someone new: be sure this is someone you really want to bond with, otherwise you may end up with what some shrinks call “misattribution.”

Here’s a true story that serves as an excellent example of “misattribution:”

Twenty years ago, supermodel Christie Brinkley famously had such an experience. She went heli-skiing in Colorado with her new boyfriend, real estate developer Ricky Taubman, and his son from a previous marriage. Christy was in the process from divorcing her pop star husband of the time, Billy Joel, with whom she had a daughter, and she was ready for a new adventure in her life.

She got more than she bargained for.

The helicopter crashed onto the mountain and they nearly died. Fortunately, they survived and soon after decided to get married. Seven months after the wedding they headed for divorce court.

Here is another way to discover is they are the one for you:

If you are dating, but not yet in a committed relationship, I believe that the very best way to get to know someone (and to get a good idea if they are the one for you) is to take a short trip with them.

Travel can bring out the best and the worst in someone. You will soon figure out whether or not you are compatible and can skillfully communicate with each other when you are both in a strange land out of your comfort zones.

Liked this? Check out our review of Arielle’s book, Turn Your Mate Into Soulmate!

Arielle Ford is a leading personality in the personal growth and contemporary spirituality movement and a relationship expert. Buy her latest book – Turn Your Mate Into Your Soulmate.

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