The Big Benefits Of Being Married To Your Soulmate

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In The Power of Myth, Joseph Campbell and Bill Moyers define marriage as something beyond the heady, romantic love we were trained to seek:

“Marriage is not a love affair. A love affair is a totally different thing. A marriage is a commitment to that which you are. That person is literally your other half. And you and the other are one. A love affair isn’t that. That is a relationship of pleasure, and when it gets to be unpleasurable, it’s off. But a marriage is a life commitment, and a life commitment means the prime concern of your life. If marriage is not the prime concern, you are not married.”

Research has proven that happily married couples receive the benefits of something called The Marriage Effect, which means that they are:

  • More likely to live longer
  • More likely to be physically and mentally healthier and happier
  • More likely to recover from illness quicker and more successfully

A 2007 study found that the rate of death of single men over age 40 was twice as high as that of married men. Marriage for men is a lifesaver. Plus, children raised by married couples versus couples just living together perform better on many levels.

Living together is not the same as being married to each other. Happy couples who are living together in a committed, unmarried relationship don’t receive the same benefits. The latest research shows that this has to do with safety and security. On some unconscious level, those committed but unmarried couples do not experience the same level of safety that married couples do. Safety is one of our most profound human needs.

According to Jim Coan, a psychologist at the University of Virginia when a couple asserts, “‘We’re just living together, we’re only living together,’ it means you haven’t really committed. It means that you’re explicitly maintaining a little bit of emotional distance. You’re not locked in.”

In other words, those who hold back on commitment don’t fully trust their partner will stick around.

What about those couples who lived together for years very successfully but then got married and soon divorced? World-renowned marriage expert Harville Hendrix says the reason stems from the emergence of the real work of marriage only after we take those sacred vows. It seems that we have to work for our security, but the pay-off is longevity and a more stable lifestyle.

Liked this? Check out our review of Arielle’s book, Turn Your Mate Into Soulmate!

Arielle Ford is a leading personality in the personal growth and contemporary spirituality movement and a relationship expert. Her next book, Turn Your Mate Into Your Soulmate (Harper One) will be published on December 29. 2015.

In The Power of Myth, Joseph Campbell and Bill Moyers define marriage as something beyond the heady, romantic love we were trained to seek:

“Marriage is not a love affair. A love affair is a totally different thing. A marriage is a commitment to that which you are. That person is literally your other half. And you and the other are one. A love affair isn’t that. That is a relationship of pleasure, and when it gets to be unpleasurable, it’s off. But a marriage is a life commitment, and a life commitment means the prime concern of your life. If marriage is not the prime concern, you are not married.”

Research has proven that happily married couples receive the benefits of something called The Marriage Effect, which means that they are:

  • More likely to live longer
  • More likely to be physically and mentally healthier and happier
  • More likely to recover from illness quicker and more successfully

A 2007 study found that the rate of death of single men over age 40 was twice as high as that of married men. Marriage for men is a lifesaver. Plus, children raised by married couples versus couples just living together perform better on many levels.

Living together is not the same as being married to each other. Happy couples who are living together in a committed, unmarried relationship don’t receive the same benefits. The latest research shows that this has to do with safety and security. On some unconscious level, those committed but unmarried couples do not experience the same level of safety that married couples do. Safety is one of our most profound human needs.

According to Jim Coan, a psychologist at the University of Virginia when a couple asserts, “‘We’re just living together, we’re only living together,’ it means you haven’t really committed. It means that you’re explicitly maintaining a little bit of emotional distance. You’re not locked in.”

In other words, those who hold back on commitment don’t fully trust their partner will stick around.

What about those couples who lived together for years very successfully but then got married and soon divorced? World-renowned marriage expert Harville Hendrix says the reason stems from the emergence of the real work of marriage only after we take those sacred vows. It seems that we have to work for our security, but the pay-off is longevity and a more stable lifestyle.

Liked this? Check out our review of Arielle’s book, Turn Your Mate Into Soulmate!

Arielle Ford is a leading personality in the personal growth and contemporary spirituality movement and a relationship expert. Her next book, Turn Your Mate Into Your Soulmate (Harper One) will be published on December 29. 2015.

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