How ‘Netflix and Chill’ Is Ruining Your Dating Life

The act of dating has lost its purpose throughout the last couple of years. In the past, you would date to find the potential “one”. Dating allowed couples to become acquainted with each other by going out and spending quality time together. Now it has become a social norm to skip this phase. The popularity of ‘Netflix and Chill’ proves it’s more socially acceptable to nurture the physical attraction before the actual relationship develops. But you might want to skip this trend – and here’s why.

1. It defeats the purpose of courtship.

The courting phase is important because asking someone out on a date shows the other person that you are willing to make time for them and want to get to know them. But there is nothing romantic or special about pulling up a movie on a laptop. After all, you can watch Netflix with anyone at any time. Going on a date forces you to talk and actually get to know one another. How else are you supposed to discover your love interest’s personality? Being face to face allows you to foster a deeper connection. So find out his or her favorite color, favorite food, pet peeves, and other various qualities. The beginning stages should be spent getting to know the other person.

2. It takes the excitement out of going on dates.

What happened to going out to the movie theater, bowling alley or even a nice restaurant? Hanging out in the house isn’t the same as taking the initiative to actually explore this exciting world. There are so many fun date ideas like going to a restaurant with foreign cuisine, mini golf, or ice skating. The date doesn’t have to be fancy – but do something thoughtful to show that your love interest is worth more than an at-home movie buddy. Dress up and paint the town with your potential bae. Be each other’s entertainment!

3. It crosses the line between dating and casual sex.

Unless you both have strong self-control, it’s hard to avoid having sex with someone you’re physically attracted to. Sexual tension is bound to rise halfway through the movie. There is nothing wrong with physical attraction but it skips the social interaction stage. Don’t settle for ‘Netflix and Chill’. This can also give your love interest the wrong idea about your hopes for the relationship. If it starts with sex then that might be all the relationship ends up being – and your love interest might expect sex every time you meet.

When you’re trying to impress that potential special woman or a man in your life, it’s OK to go for a little old-fashioned courtship. It’s a flattering gesture to ask someone on a date. Going on dates gives you both the opportunity to create a friendship first and a healthier relationship later.

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Written by Bianca Rosembert

Photo Credit: theglobalpanorama via Compfight cc

The act of dating has lost its purpose throughout the last couple of years. In the past, you would date to find the potential “one”. Dating allowed couples to become acquainted with each other by going out and spending quality time together. Now it has become a social norm to skip this phase. The popularity of ‘Netflix and Chill’ proves it’s more socially acceptable to nurture the physical attraction before the actual relationship develops. But you might want to skip this trend – and here’s why.

1. It defeats the purpose of courtship.

The courting phase is important because asking someone out on a date shows the other person that you are willing to make time for them and want to get to know them. But there is nothing romantic or special about pulling up a movie on a laptop. After all, you can watch Netflix with anyone at any time. Going on a date forces you to talk and actually get to know one another. How else are you supposed to discover your love interest’s personality? Being face to face allows you to foster a deeper connection. So find out his or her favorite color, favorite food, pet peeves, and other various qualities. The beginning stages should be spent getting to know the other person.

2. It takes the excitement out of going on dates.

What happened to going out to the movie theater, bowling alley or even a nice restaurant? Hanging out in the house isn’t the same as taking the initiative to actually explore this exciting world. There are so many fun date ideas like going to a restaurant with foreign cuisine, mini golf, or ice skating. The date doesn’t have to be fancy – but do something thoughtful to show that your love interest is worth more than an at-home movie buddy. Dress up and paint the town with your potential bae. Be each other’s entertainment!

3. It crosses the line between dating and casual sex.

Unless you both have strong self-control, it’s hard to avoid having sex with someone you’re physically attracted to. Sexual tension is bound to rise halfway through the movie. There is nothing wrong with physical attraction but it skips the social interaction stage. Don’t settle for ‘Netflix and Chill’. This can also give your love interest the wrong idea about your hopes for the relationship. If it starts with sex then that might be all the relationship ends up being – and your love interest might expect sex every time you meet.

When you’re trying to impress that potential special woman or a man in your life, it’s OK to go for a little old-fashioned courtship. It’s a flattering gesture to ask someone on a date. Going on dates gives you both the opportunity to create a friendship first and a healthier relationship later.

Liked this? Check out How Social Media Can Help Your Relationship!

Written by Bianca Rosembert

Photo Credit: theglobalpanorama via Compfight cc

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