When Taking A Break is Good For Your Relationship

When Taking A Break is Good For Your Relationship

Many people find the idea of breaks in romantic relationships silly. If you’re so stressed out by your partner that you don’t want to be around them, you might as well break up! But if you do it right, it could help your relationship. Here are some instances in which a break might benefit your relationship.

  • You feel lost. There’s a reason why so many people have off-again, on-again relationships in their 20s. It’s tough to discover yourself and balance the demands of a committed relationship – especially if you feel like you’re defined by your relationship. Taking a break can help center your own sense of self to remind you who you are without your significant other.
  • You no longer appreciate your significant other. If everything your partner does annoys you, you might want to take a break. This can be a sign that you’ve spent too much time together and you’re starting to take your partner for granted – a death knell for relationships. Taking a break gives you an opportunity to miss your partner and remember how much you appreciate him/her in your life.
  • You’re doing long-distance. We all know that long-distance relationships fail. Still, it can be especially tough to break up when everything is great except for the number of miles between your homes. A break can help you see what life is like without the other person and whether or not it’s something you can live with. It can also be a good idea if you’re just starting the long-distance relationship, so that whoever’s moving has a chance to lay down roots instead of constantly being homesick.
  • You’re always fighting. If you’re fighting so much you feel like you’re “one last straw,” away from breaking up, it might be time to take a break. While major disagreements about essential issues may necessitate a break-up, a break is better for when you’re fighting about petty things. This break will help you evaluate what you’re actually mad about. If you’re still irritable and snappy when you’re on the break, it’s probably not about your partner.
  • You feel like cheating. Obviously, this is incredibly tricky. However, some people cheat because they’re craving sexual variety. Not because they stopped loving their partners. If you’re not ready for full-on non-monogamy, a break can give you the variety you crave in a temporarily. But tread carefully when you bring this up! Depending on your partner, you might be setting yourself up to get dumped.
  • You’re busy. Do you have so much stuff to do you barely have time to keep your eyes open, let alone go out on dates? If you have a huge work project that’s going to keep you busy for few weeks, you might want to manage time expectations with your partner. This is a little different from the other reasons on this list because you’re still in the relationship at this point; it just might feel like a break depending on how often you normally communicate and how little you will during the break. But classifying it as a break may help avoid the fights that can turn into a break-up later. Keep in mind this is temporary – if you’re constantly that busy, you probably need to learn some time management skills.
  • You’re just not sure. Deciding to break up with someone is a tough process with few easy answers. And while the answer will clearly be yes or no sometimes, the answer can also be, “I have absolutely no idea.” A relationship with both great and terrible parts is tough to evaluate from within – so taking a break can help you get clear on what you want.

No matter your reasons, taking a break is a tough process. For one, you may have no idea whether or not you’ll be back together or broken up by the end – and that’s a terrifying thought. Plus, there are so many questions to answer: can you kiss other people? Will you talk at all during the break? How long is it going to go? So be sure to do some research before taking one and above all establish boundaries that are clear to the both of you. You don’t want to end up like Ross and Rachel.

Enjoyed this? Check out Why Long-Distance Relationships Never Work Out!

Written by Sasha Graffagna

Photo Credit: Free Grunge Textures – www.freestock.ca via Compfight cc

Many people find the idea of breaks in romantic relationships silly. If you’re so stressed out by your partner that you don’t want to be around them, you might as well break up! But if you do it right, it could help your relationship. Here are some instances in which a break might benefit your relationship.

  • You feel lost. There’s a reason why so many people have off-again, on-again relationships in their 20s. It’s tough to discover yourself and balance the demands of a committed relationship – especially if you feel like you’re defined by your relationship. Taking a break can help center your own sense of self to remind you who you are without your significant other.
  • You no longer appreciate your significant other. If everything your partner does annoys you, you might want to take a break. This can be a sign that you’ve spent too much time together and you’re starting to take your partner for granted – a death knell for relationships. Taking a break gives you an opportunity to miss your partner and remember how much you appreciate him/her in your life.
  • You’re doing long-distance. We all know that long-distance relationships fail. Still, it can be especially tough to break up when everything is great except for the number of miles between your homes. A break can help you see what life is like without the other person and whether or not it’s something you can live with. It can also be a good idea if you’re just starting the long-distance relationship, so that whoever’s moving has a chance to lay down roots instead of constantly being homesick.
  • You’re always fighting. If you’re fighting so much you feel like you’re “one last straw,” away from breaking up, it might be time to take a break. While major disagreements about essential issues may necessitate a break-up, a break is better for when you’re fighting about petty things. This break will help you evaluate what you’re actually mad about. If you’re still irritable and snappy when you’re on the break, it’s probably not about your partner.
  • You feel like cheating. Obviously, this is incredibly tricky. However, some people cheat because they’re craving sexual variety. Not because they stopped loving their partners. If you’re not ready for full-on non-monogamy, a break can give you the variety you crave in a temporarily. But tread carefully when you bring this up! Depending on your partner, you might be setting yourself up to get dumped.
  • You’re busy. Do you have so much stuff to do you barely have time to keep your eyes open, let alone go out on dates? If you have a huge work project that’s going to keep you busy for few weeks, you might want to manage time expectations with your partner. This is a little different from the other reasons on this list because you’re still in the relationship at this point; it just might feel like a break depending on how often you normally communicate and how little you will during the break. But classifying it as a break may help avoid the fights that can turn into a break-up later. Keep in mind this is temporary – if you’re constantly that busy, you probably need to learn some time management skills.
  • You’re just not sure. Deciding to break up with someone is a tough process with few easy answers. And while the answer will clearly be yes or no sometimes, the answer can also be, “I have absolutely no idea.” A relationship with both great and terrible parts is tough to evaluate from within – so taking a break can help you get clear on what you want.

No matter your reasons, taking a break is a tough process. For one, you may have no idea whether or not you’ll be back together or broken up by the end – and that’s a terrifying thought. Plus, there are so many questions to answer: can you kiss other people? Will you talk at all during the break? How long is it going to go? So be sure to do some research before taking one and above all establish boundaries that are clear to the both of you. You don’t want to end up like Ross and Rachel.

Enjoyed this? Check out Why Long-Distance Relationships Never Work Out!

Written by Sasha Graffagna

Photo Credit: Free Grunge Textures – www.freestock.ca via Compfight cc

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