Why You Should Stay Single In Your 20s

Why You Should Stay Single In Your 20s

If you watch enough romantic comedies, you might have internalized the idea that if you don’t have a partner, then you must be flawed. Or that if you’re single you must be a sad cat lady. Well, we won’t be the first people to tell you that’s not true – and we won’t be the last.

Staying single is never a reflection of your worth. This is hard to realize when your friends are moving in with their significant others and you haven’t had a second date in months. But once you realize that, you’ll feel a lot better about yourself and your choices.

Being single is great – and not in the way people in relationships condescendingly tell you it is. For one, it frees up a lot of your time. It doesn’t matter whether you’re killing it at work or just vegging out on the couch because your time is solely yours. You never have to double check before making plans with friends or booking trips or even looking for apartments. Everything becomes about what’s good for you, not what’s good for your relationship.

This is crucial because you’re still discovering who you are in your 20s. You may have a job, but you probably don’t have a career yet. It’s an awkward transition stage when you might look like a fully formed adult, but you may not feel like one. Psychology even has a whole new name for it: emerging adulthood.

So getting into a serious relationship during this period of your life may not be the best idea. If you don’t know who you are, a relationship won’t be able to give you an identity. That is something that you have to find on your own, unfortunately.

We’ve tackled the serious reasons why you should be single in your 20s, and now it’s time for the fun ones. Being single means that you’re constantly meeting new people. And if you’re not, you should be! Apps have given modern daters more options than our parents ever had. And if you don’t take advantage of it now, you’re a fool.

Will you go on some dates with weirdos? Absolutely, because that’s what dating is. But that’s kind of the point: figuring out what you don’t like so you can figure out what you do. And while you may not always have a date to a wedding but when you go out with your friends, you also won’t be the person who’s outside the bar having to check in with a clingy significant other.

Enjoyed this? Check out How to Be More Compassionate!

Written by Roselyn Sebastian 

If you watch enough romantic comedies, you might have internalized the idea that if you don’t have a partner, then you must be flawed. Or that if you’re single you must be a sad cat lady. Well, we won’t be the first people to tell you that’s not true – and we won’t be the last.

Staying single is never a reflection of your worth. This is hard to realize when your friends are moving in with their significant others and you haven’t had a second date in months. But once you realize that, you’ll feel a lot better about yourself and your choices.

Being single is great – and not in the way people in relationships condescendingly tell you it is. For one, it frees up a lot of your time. It doesn’t matter whether you’re killing it at work or just vegging out on the couch because your time is solely yours. You never have to double check before making plans with friends or booking trips or even looking for apartments. Everything becomes about what’s good for you, not what’s good for your relationship.

This is crucial because you’re still discovering who you are in your 20s. You may have a job, but you probably don’t have a career yet. It’s an awkward transition stage when you might look like a fully formed adult, but you may not feel like one. Psychology even has a whole new name for it: emerging adulthood.

So getting into a serious relationship during this period of your life may not be the best idea. If you don’t know who you are, a relationship won’t be able to give you an identity. That is something that you have to find on your own, unfortunately.

We’ve tackled the serious reasons why you should be single in your 20s, and now it’s time for the fun ones. Being single means that you’re constantly meeting new people. And if you’re not, you should be! Apps have given modern daters more options than our parents ever had. And if you don’t take advantage of it now, you’re a fool.

Will you go on some dates with weirdos? Absolutely, because that’s what dating is. But that’s kind of the point: figuring out what you don’t like so you can figure out what you do. And while you may not always have a date to a wedding but when you go out with your friends, you also won’t be the person who’s outside the bar having to check in with a clingy significant other.

Enjoyed this? Check out How to Be More Compassionate!

Written by Roselyn Sebastian 

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